Toxic parents are abusive, emotionally destructive, and result in poor unstable kids. These tips will help you with non-toxic parenting.
Toxic parents are not rare. Yes, all across the world you find toxic parents and that’s just sad. Most of these toxic parents themselves have has abusive childhood or a toxic parent and this they have just carried forward in their own lives – often without realizing it.
If you have had a toxic parent – stop and asses – is it right to put your child through that?
Keep your parenting journey healthy and safe and definitely non-toxic. Non- toxic parenting is beneficial both for the kid and you.
You don’t want your child to grow up hating you. It will end up in them getting estranged from you later in life – the moment they turn adults or worse when they turn teens!
No parent is perfect, we are all humans, and we all make mistakes. But being abusive to your child or being a toxic parent is not an option.
Here are few tips with which one can realize if they are toxic parents and then correct themselves.
Don’t be a Toxic Parent – Do’s and Don’ts of non-Toxic parenting
Don’t label your child to hide your parenting flaws
Admit your own mistakes. If you have parenting flaws it’s your mistake not your child’s. Don’t label your child as ‘monster’, ‘spoilt’, ‘unruly’ if you don’t know how to manage kids.
It is even worse if you keep blaming your spouse if your kids are acting up. “It’s because of you he is like this” – if you are saying this constantly you are being a toxic parent. Stop immediately.
There’s a difference between criticizing and correcting
It is always good to correct your child’s behaviour if that’s inappropriate but criticizing the child for everything is going to do no good. Be a guide to your child not a critic. No one is born with everything learnt. Kids need to see to learn. What you show them is what you learn.
SO don’t say words like “look at your brother, he’s never behaved like this, learn something from him”. You will only end up igniting sense of jealousy, insecurity and rivalry.
Do not Abuse Physically
Hitting a child, abusing physically is not an answer to anything. In many cultures spanking, hitting is normal and a regular practice – it is ultimately not good for your child’s emotional health.
Make changes in your own temperament. Learn to control your impulse. You can always discipline a child without hitting or being a toxic parent!
Healthy conflict resolution
Children from dysfunctional families grow up to have their own dysfunctional families. Model healthy conflict resolution with your spouse in front of children to set examples.
So don’t be a toxic parent to your child. Non-toxic parenting is healthy and safe. It will raise confident healthy kids.
I am sharing Parenting hacks for Millennial Moms on this Season of A to Z Challenge. Adding the post links as I post them.
A – Amazing Moms
B-Boys -What Boys Need from their moms
C – How to be a calm mom
D – Discipline kids without yelling
E – Raising Emotionally healthy Kids
F – French Parenting Tips
G – Gentle Parenting
I – Indian values to instill in your child
J – Jar of Positivity
K – Know your kids through fun questions
L – Life Hacks & Parenting Tips for moms
M – Mom self-care routine that is quick
N – Newborn hacks for New moms
O – Don’t be the Obsessive Mom
P – Positive Phrases to getting your kids to listen
Q – Quick guide to diaper bag essentials
R – Raising Resilient Kids
S – Single mom
