Discipline – How to Discipline a child without yelling – 7 Positive parenting Tips

How to discipline a child without yelling is one of the biggest goals in my positive parenting journey.

We women, have it tough. We manage, house, we manage work, we manage kids. When things don’t go our way we go in offensive become short-tempered. Mostly the kids are at the receiving ends of this. When my son was about a year old and couldn’t communicate I was baffled by things like crying, screaming. Why is he crying? How can I make it stop? It frustrated me, and embarrassingly I ended up yelling at a one-year-old!

I hated it.

I wanted positive parenting, I didn’t want to be the screaming shouting yelling mom.

I evaluated myself, took stock, realized my mistake, became a calm mom. It came with practice.

My son is well behaved – his teachers says – he’s extremely well behaved and has no complaints. And I am not a yelling, shouting, punishing mom. How? Want to know how to discipline a child without yelling? I will share my positive parenting tips with you.

How to Discipline a child without yelling – 7 Positive parenting Tips

#1 Stay calm

Be calm, be poised. You don’t want fear spiralling down your child and affecting his emotional and psychological growth. You are your child’s biggest role model. Exercise proper self-control so that your child gets an example of appropriate anger management skills.

#2 Set House Rules

We have house rules

1. No shouting/ yelling
2. Practice magic words – please, thank you, sorry
3. No pushing
4. Clean up your own mess

When you set up house rules, things are clearly defined. I ask my son’s friends too to follow the ‘no pushing, no fighting rule’ when they come for playdates. Because some things are just not allowed.

#3 Discuss/ explain

I have found out the more I am able to explain a concept to my son, it works better. Sit down and talk to your child. Two-way communication is important in any relationship. The more honest you are in these discussions the more comfortable your child will be with good behavior.

#4 Own up your mistakes

We are humans, we do mistakes. Good people own up their mistakes. If I have done a mistake I own it up and when required I say sorry to my 4-year-old. It doesn’t make me small. It tells him, owning up your mistakes is normal and he should be doing that too.

For example – One day while playing the phone charger fell down behind the bed in an unreachable corner. I was not in the room.

He came to me and said

“Sorry Mumma, by mistake your charger fell down and I can’t reach it”.

I was calm and said “its ok, I’ll get it later”

He went back to playing. After a few minutes, he comes back with the charger (wrapped in some dust). He took his hockey stick to take out the charger from under the bed. How he managed, he knows. I didn’t ask him to do it. He did it on his own.

#5 Spend quality time with your child

Quality over quantity is important. One of the most key rules in positive parenting is spending quality time with your child. It is most effective because a child wants you to be there – make time for your child. Your child is your biggest job. And the most important one too! Turn away from a laptop and smartphone and spend a good hour or two with your child.

#6 Praise when they do something good

We thrive on encouragement as adults. Imagine what good it will bring in a small child’s mind when you praise him and encourage him when he does something good. If he helps with a house chore – thank him. If he does his homework on his own – praise him.

If he does something wrong – instead of shouting or yelling tell him – you didn’t expect that from him. Children like to please their parents.

#7 Use a firm voice

I am a friendly mom, but I have set boundaries. I can’t be taken for granted, nor is it okay to overlook everything. How to discipline a child without yelling depends a lot on the parents and how they handle a situation. Talk to your child in a firm voice if there is a situation.

Instead of yelling at the child and making the situation worse, use a firm voice to state “you have spilled water, now you have to take the wipe and clean it”.

Say this instead of a common response like “what have you done, why did you spill water? Who do you think is going to clean that up?”

Your negative tone and yelling will not help in instilling good behavior in your child.

I am sharing Parenting hacks for Millennial Moms on this Season of A to Z Challenge. Adding the post links as I post them.
A – Amazing Moms
B-Boys -What Boys Need from their moms
C – Calm mom – how to be a calm mom

Until next time.

Cheers.

Xoxo

Tina.