Dear 16 year old me,

Let me begin by writing – you are awesome. Stay that way. Don’t worry about the future, it won’t be bad, I know. But don’t miss out on the good things in life now! It is your age to have fun – even if everyone in family and school is telling you to only and only concentrate on studies and board exams. All work and no play will make you a boring Tina. You don’t want that. So keep up the Yahoo chats, MSN chats on your PC. In a few years that will become obsolete anyway.

Don’t give up on your dance. Classical dance is not easy and you have given your life to learn this art form. Don’t give it up because of studies. Even if you can allot 30 minutes of your time in a day for dance practice, give that. You might not be able to perform across the country as you have been doing this while, but still dance for yourself. Once you stop t, later in future you will regret it. It’s not just an art – it’s who you are.

Don’t be so proud of your figure – I see you writing that in people’s slam books against “One thing you are proud of”. And it all has to do with the point I mentioned above. Once you stop dancing or practicing regularly figure that you are so proud of won’t stay the same way – given your affinity for sweets and all things desserts.

Life is bigger than friends in school, some rogue teachers that you don’t like, BOYS, why mom’s upset with you. They are all here in whatever way they are being with you for a purpose. They are all in some way trying to teach you what is good, what is bad, what is right and what is wrong. So if you face a heartbreak or not do good in maths – just know it’s okay.  You might want to wish ‘Happy Teachers Day’ to the wise old EXPERIENCE than Mrs xxx or Professor XXX someday.

Girls in school who are your best friends might not stay best friends in the following years – but still enjoy this phase – create memories. Once you grow up you will get less time to create memories like this.

Yes with all things said – board exams, getting into good college, higher studies FROM GOOD COLLEGE/UNIVERSITY will always be a big part of your life. You can’t evade that in this world. But know one thing – don’t lose the girl in you – the dreamer in you. Never stop dreaming even if that dream seems weird or bizarre. Because once you stop dreaming you become a machine running on some command.

Keep the little girl in you alive, dear mine. You will do just fine because whatever you do you can find happiness in it, so don’t worry. Live without the tension on future, I am there to watch your back in that case.

A wiser form of you.


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15 Comments on Dear 16 Old Me

    • tinabasu
      October 17, 2016 at 1:29 am (2 years ago)

      Heheh, thank Amrita I’ll be 16+15 very soon – just next month to be precise! Yes creating memories is very important. I am trying to do even now so that a 60 year old me can look back and smile or laugh randomly!

  1. Ruchie
    October 17, 2016 at 7:00 am (2 years ago)

    Such a wonderful letter sweet as 16!!

    • tinabasu
      October 17, 2016 at 4:12 pm (2 years ago)

      Thank you Ruchie will be visiting your sixteenth year soon

  2. Vishal Bheeroo
    October 17, 2016 at 10:25 am (2 years ago)

    Tina, you have echoed everything that a 16 teen goes through, the dreams, studies, grades and love. How our perspective changes as we grow? Too many dreams we sacrificed for the stupid world.
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    • tinabasu
      October 17, 2016 at 4:13 pm (2 years ago)

      Seriously, sad that’s how the education system of our country is. Sometimes it doesn’t let you follow your dreams

  3. Rohan Kachalia (@rohank01)
    October 17, 2016 at 2:36 pm (2 years ago)

    A nice letter, Tina. We still need to keep dreaming. That is what will keep us moving.

    • tinabasu
      October 17, 2016 at 4:14 pm (2 years ago)

      Very true Rohan, thanks for dropping by

  4. Nabanita Dhar
    October 17, 2016 at 3:13 pm (2 years ago)

    Things every 16-year-old would like to hear. I identify with the giving up on dance part. I stopped practising Kathak due to studies.I wish I hadn’t. Dancing gave me unbridled joy and I miss being on stage and performing. You know what, your 16-year-old self has a good mentor in you. And who knows, somewhere she is actually reading this 🙂
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    • tinabasu
      October 17, 2016 at 4:15 pm (2 years ago)

      Hey that’s nice, so we have love for Kathak also in common apart from food! I so wish I hadn’t stopped practice. Maybe sometime now I should take it up again

  5. Mayuri
    October 17, 2016 at 3:14 pm (2 years ago)

    I loved reading this, Tina!
    The bit about MSN, Yahoo chats made me chuckle!
    And I loved the part about making memories, irrespective of whether you remain friends, or not.

    • tinabasu
      October 17, 2016 at 4:17 pm (2 years ago)

      Hehe yeah yahoo and MSN Messenger were a huge part in the teens. Now it has been taken up by twitter and fb but thankfully no random people! Thanks Mayuri

    • tinabasu
      October 17, 2016 at 4:18 pm (2 years ago)

      Thank you Alana, yeah maybe you could take it up and write to a 16 year old you. Will be waiting for that post

  6. Anshul Taran
    October 19, 2016 at 2:12 pm (2 years ago)

    Isn’t that awesome when you said “let the girl in your alive”, or “be a dreamer always”

    Touch a cord in me, no doubt that it is one of the top ten post in blogadda 🙂
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